7 Ways To Love Yourself When You Feel Worthless
Struggling with wondering if you’ll EVER get your life together? If you’ll EVER find love? If you’ll EVER be at peace? If you’ll EVER get out of debt? I’ve been there. It sucks. And I’m sorry you’re there now.
To help, I’m giving you 7 tips for things to try when you’re stuck in a self-downing slump and can’t get out.
xo Lilli Luxe
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1. You Are Enough
Repeat it out loud. Tell yourself in the mirror “I. Am. Enough.” It’s probably going to feel very weird, and you might laugh. That’s ok. I want you to know that you’ve got what it takes, your desires matter. You matter.
2. Don’t Play Small
You know that idea you’ve had for awhile now- that thing you’ve wanted to try or create, but weren’t sure you could do?
Take a minute and think about what it might be.
Starting a business? Writing a book? Trying a salsa class? Getting training or certification for a new skill?
When we try new things, we get that intoxicating boost of confidence that spills over into every area of our lives.
For each additional minute you let your idea rot in the back corner of your mind, you’re robbing the world of something potentially great. Your idea may even be something that could help a LOT of people! Don’t let the world miss out on something beautiful you have to contribute.
3. What would excite you?
Here’s a task for you (and please be the 1% that does it!): Sit down with a blank piece of paper and free write every answer you can think of to “What would excite me?“. Stew on it for a few days, weeks, or months. Think about what it is that really gets you going. If nothing comes to mind, and you feel bored of everything in life right now- Google some new hobbies, jobs, trips, or classes, or browse on Pinterest to get fresh ideas.
4. Stress and gratitude can’t coexist
Tthere’s 3 components to happiness: gratitude, community, and purpose.
Still got that piece of paper out? Brainstorm every single thing you can think of that you’re thankful for.
If nothing comes to mind, try the reverse question “How would I be screwed if ____ wasn’t in my life?”
Start with basics. A roof over your head. Your cell phone. Your friend. Your pet. Your family. Your car. Food. Your health, etc
If you’re reading this on your computer or smartphone with wifi, you’ve probably got more wealth than 90% of the world.
5. Don’t obsess about future unknowns
“My philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice.” (JK Rowling)
Something stressful coming up? Feeling scared? You’ve got 2 options. Take action and do something, or accept whatever is meant to be will be. If there’s nothing you can actively do about it right now, let.. it.. go.. In fact, sing the “Let it Go” song at the top of your lungs if you have to. Something that really helps me is to journal vomit every thing I’m scared of or worried about. Almost every time I do this, I realize the worst case scenario isn’t actually as terrible as I thought in the grand scheme of things.
Know that whatever problem solving skills you’ve used in the past will be at your disposal for whatever comes next. You got this.
5. Friends matter
If your current friends are negative, unambitious, and encouraging bad habits- this is hurting you. Take a friend inventory. If you want to be more positive, successful, fit, intelligent, etc surround yourself with these types of people. Be absolutely intentional with who you invest time in. Romantic partners also exaggerate these habits x10.
7. It’s all a test
If you’re feeling on edge or uncertain about something, it means you‘re at a fork in the road for growth. These circumstances are pushing you to learn who you really are, what you really want, and towards action and greater clarity.
What’s your favorite tip for loving yourself when you’re feeling down? Comment below